It is time we rely on our damn selves!
Often times, we habitually ask others for their opinions and expect their input to come out all butterflies and rainbows. Well, listen up, if you are one to rely on other's opinions, then you better suck that shit up and accept that not everyone thinks the same way as you do. You appreciate their advice, say 'thank you' and move the fuck on. Because, in the end, the ONLY opinion that matters most is YOUR OWN!
That was pretty harsh, right? Hell yeah, it was. It's the truth! I can't emphasize this enough, YOU ARE YOUR OWN PERSON, and only YOU can change YOUR LIFE. The way you think, act, love, care, or whatever have you - YOU are the one who can flip your world right side up.
Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. - Steve Jobs
Our TIME is very much limited. What you need to get, in that pretty little head of yours, is that your happiness does not fall into the hands of someone else. The ball is in your court, there are 10 seconds on the clock, and it's up to YOU to decide what your next move will be.
Here is the thing, I too was a victim in relying on others. I would check in with family and friends and ask, whether I should try something new, what should I study, who I should date, where to work, you name it. Anything I wanted to do, I thought it was normal to check in with others, first. You know what I found in the end? A depressed young woman, in search of pure happiness. I was lost. I was so caught up in pleasing everyone else, and what they thought of me, that I forgot all about ME! Rather than listening to my heart, I let my head take over.
It is like the time I decided to change majors, in the middle of my 4th semester in college. Everyone, especially my father, insisted I become a nurse. It was what I wanted to do after all, apart from becoming a teacher. I worked my ass off, stayed up late, tried to understand anatomy, and how the body works. I pushed myself to the point where I began to question if this was for me. I failed many exams. I received my first D in college. I even volunteered at Inova Hospital to gain experience. Rather than being excited and determined, I felt drained and frustrated.
My experience at Inova Hospital was when I realized, nursing was not for me. Growing up, I wished to be of two things, a nurse or a teacher, oh and if it counts, a dolphin trainer. Nursing just didn't seem right for me. It was a hard decision to make. However, after one long sleepless night, I finally decided to choose a different route. I chose to teach.
Did I waste a couple semesters in college? Sure, I took classes I did not need, overworked myself, and felt as if I failed in life. But, most importantly, I gained experience, knowledge and the courage to TRY! I made a decision that I knew would bring me happiness. A decision in which I do not regret until this day.
My father was furious. Not a word came out of his mouth for days. He had every right. In his defense, our parents want the best for us, and he thought by reaching my highest potential in nursing, would be the best for me. It wasn't until the day he came by my job at Dulles Sportsplex teaching soccer to young children, a sport I absolutely am horrible at, that he knew I made the right decision. Children are everything to me, and it was time I made a choice for MYSELF. I thought, what would happen if I put myself first for once? And in that very moment, I took control of my own life. Goodbye, outer thoughts, hello beating heart yelling, 'YOU HAVE THE POWER - the power to do whatever makes your heart happy. And no one in their right mind will stop you'.
I finally found that it is essential to make time and invest in yourself. Believe that you can do anything you set your mind to. It is no one's damn business, what you choose to do with your spare time. You want to work out, yet you're scared of people watching? Fuck them, you get your work out in! You want to start your own food truck business. You make that good ass food! I'll eat it. You want to quit your job to search for what you are truly passionate about? Go for it! You want to switch majors in the middle of your college life? Do it! You want to date someone others won't approve? Fine, you love who you love. The only way you will find your true passion, happiness and a better version of yourself is by trying, seeking and believing. If you ever fall along the way, you get right back up and try again. Don't stop until you are truly satisfied with the life you live.
Now, go! Build your empire and grow into the woman or man you are capable of becoming. You deserve a happy life, don't let others ruin that for you.