How three simple words can change your entire mindset!
Doesn't it seem like you are working "so hard" to get what you want, yet it feels as if you are going nowhere? If so, I am right there with you! There are some days where I jump in excitement, because I come close to accomplishing something. Then, I find myself right back to square one. Why? Why is it that we believe life to be so damn difficult, to the point where we wind up quitting on ourselves over and over? I can tell you why. It's because we are wrapped around the thought of the final product, rather than embracing the journey.
“Success is a journey, not a destination. The doing is often more important than the outcome.” - Arthur Ashe
In February, 2017 I wrote down goals I was determined to accomplish, before January 1st, 2018. I wrote down five goals, in no particular order, after finishing the book, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne - a book in which left me pondering about how great my life can truly be, simply by, asking, believing and receiving.
During this time in my life, I was a preschool teacher, making roughly 25k, owned a 2009 silver Nissan Sentra, lived in a newly bought house with zero furniture, and was swimming in debt. But you know what, I was still grateful! You may not find the word ‘gratitude’ in asking, believing and receiving, however, gratitude itself, is built around them. I was blessed with everything I had then, yet aspired to aim for more. I mean who isn't? We live in an era of a broad range of opportunities and we as humans, simply want to grow and take advantage of the excessive amount of options available. All we have to do, is believe in the life we truly want, work for it and just keep going!
So, I set off to accomplish my goals, beginning with purchasing my new car. To be frankly honest, I did not need a new car, I wanted one. I wanted it for my future family. After thinking long and hard, I finally convinced myself to get a brand new 2017 Nissan Rogue. I recall reminding myself that I can afford it, especially since I strongly believed, I’d be granted a promotion months later. I asked. I believed. I received.
Today, I am a proud owner of a Nissan Rogue, an Assistant Director making a decent amount of income and a loving wife. I received a total of 3.5 things I wanted, before 2018. I say 3.5, because I did in fact knock out about half of my debt, which felt good enough to me. As for getting Lasik surgery, I realized that wasn't something I truly wanted, as glasses and contacts are as sufficient, at least for now. Which is ok, right? Of course it is. Goals change constantly, it’s up to us whether we accept it, or dwell on it.
Everything I wanted in 2017, did not just fall in my lap. I can easily express what I gained, but nowhere does it include all the hard work, wishing and praying and struggles, I had/did before receiving it all. I was thrilled when I bought my car, only because it made me happy, and most importantly, it made me feel ready, ready for a family. As for the car payments, no one enjoys paying bills. I cried when my boyfriend at the time, now husband, told me he didn’t want to get married, when he knew all about my 2017 goals. My mind raced back and forth, arguing how I would not get the promotion, versus, how I will get the promotion.
It’s hard. Life is not easy, but it’s not meant to be! Its like what my husband once told me, ‘rain is rain, what we grow to believe about rain, is our own decision based on our own experiences’. My rainy days, differs from yours, yet it’s up to us how we decide to utilize a rainy day or any day for that matter. You will either sink in bed, walk around droopy or have that, “today is going to suck” mentality. Or, you will wake up blessed, determined and driven. Blessed you woke up with a beating heart, feet that walk and hands that move. Determined to get closer to that ultimate goal you have been working so hard for. And driven, because you have a family to feed, bills to pay and two plane tickets to where ever you wish to visit, with your name on it.
2017 came with its ups and downs, but what I, no WE, should primarily focus on, are the UPS and how we made it to where we are today. Embrace the journey. Ask what you want. Make it realistic. Believe it. I mean, believe in it so much, to the point where you admit to yourself, that it is ALREADY YOURS. Next, receive it with gratitude and grace, for you can officially take your pen and cross out that one goal you accomplished! Finally, move on to the next! Ask one more time. Believe in it again. Know it is on the way. And you will receive it.
What do you do when you don’t receive jack shit, and you begin to doubt everything you are doing? You ask yourself, what am I doing each and every day to get closer to accomplishing that one goal? Are you truly believing that what you want, is already yours? Are you utilizing all the seven days in the week to get it? If not, then maybe you should reevaluate your goals and what you TRULY want!
Other than that, take advantage of today, tomorrow, and the next day, whether it be sunny, cloudy or rainy. You were granted one life, and if you are anything like me, you’d want more!
NOW, GO GET 'EM!